To keep this person anonymous, I'll name this person Bird.
In all honesty, I'm not trying to be a bad friend, but I really need a place where it's really just me. My Tumblr reflects a portion of who I am: the ideas I want to make my own, the people I want to look up to, and the things in life that have really defined me. Bird does not understand that I'm tired and frustrated with her antics. Let me explain. In grade school, the says that I'd come to say, like "Cool beans" or something that I'd use as a catch phrase for about two weeks, she would start imitating it. Whenever I pointed it out, she said okay, and backed off. She only used those phrases when I wasn't around. Misa was once a name I'd been accustomed to, and I told her that it was a special name. It meant a lot to me. I'd noticed her AOL name was then changed to Misa.
A few months ago, I'd said that there was significance in the Zelda series, as they give me fond memories of my parents. Eventually I find her reblogging my tumblr Zelda pictures (which, by the way, she didn't use to do), so I cut down on my Zelda reblogs. I told her that I wanted my name legally changed to "Tear" because not only was the idea that I had someone to look up to, but because Tear has become such a big part of me that I really want to be able to say that it is my name. She then said that she wanted to change her own name to Her name, her asian name, some japanese alias she has online, then her surname hyphen her dad's last name. My first thought was that she was trying to outdo me. I instantly retaliated that I had significant reason to change my name, and she reason to add in the japanese alias (which, by the way, is not proper Japanese) was that she felt like it. That doesn't sound right. I'd understand the asian name, through no offense, it's a name that isn't necessary to add in legally, but by all means, go ahead.
I told her that my friend suggested I join the Lolita community, and I agreed, as it was a fascination and a curiousity I had limited knowledge of. I'd known of the Lolita culture since I was in the 5th grade, and started to research it only recently. Though, I've seen over Tumblr what Lolita was in the past, so I have a decent idea of what's right and wrong. As I told her, she said that she wanted t get into Lolita too "because she was into it too." I know she's had this fascination, and asked me to send her some dresses. I did, and that's the last time. She wants to be a Gothic Lolita. She hasn't done the research, she hasn't done the observations. I'm not trying to be a bad friend but this is where I draw the line. She's older than me; I don't need someone thinking that they should outdo me because I'm younger. She claims that "she has a dark side" so she should be a Gothic Lolita and I'm "sweet" so I should be a sweet lolita (I told her Sweet and Classic are what I want to go for). That sounds like treating Lolita like a "role." Role? Cosplay much? I'm an experienced cosplayer myself, but even I'm aware that Lolita is a lifestyle/fashion and not a game.
I'm tired of faking that I don't notice this, but in all honesty, from previous experiences, telling someone "not to copy me" is either turned into "they can like the same things you do" or "okay" and she'll continue to do it behind my back.
I just want her to find out who she is. I unfortunately can't block her on Tumblr, but if I could, I would watch and see who she really is.
I don't like friends like that.